Give While You Live: The Meaningful Impact of Gifting Today – (0:00)
Alek Johnson: Well, welcome everyone. I’m excited to be here with you today. We have another great and relevant topic to dive into today. And while I’m sure many of you have plenty of other things you could be doing here at lunchtime, you’re taking the time to jump in with me today, and for that, I’m very grateful.
So, for those who don’t know me, my name is Alek Johnson. I am a Certified Financial Planner™ and one of the lead advisors here at Peterson Wealth. As always, I just want to start off with a couple of quick housekeeping items.
First, just to set expectations, this should be another shorter presentation today. I think we’re targeting around 20 to 25 minutes.
If you haven’t noticed by now, I’m one of those guys who really thinks that less is more sometimes. So, I’ll try to keep it on the shorter end for you.
If you have any questions throughout the presentation, I have Jeff Sevy, who I was just chatting with, online with me today. Jeff’s another one of our great advisors. So, feel free to use the Q&A section. He will be answering any questions you have as best as he can.
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So today, as the title suggests, we are going to be talking about gifting. First and foremost, I just want to start off by saying this is not a push or a guilt trip or anything like that.
I am not here to convince anyone that they have to give their money away during their lifetime. In fact, in some cases, I have advised against it as an advisor.
However, this is a conversation that’s becoming more and more common as we continue to meet with more and more people. We have clients come in all the time and they ask us questions that sound something like this:
Should I give my kids, or my grandkids, or potentially my friends—should I give them money now, or do I wait and let them just inherit it when I pass away as part of the estate?
For decades, the default answer was pretty simple: just wait. Let the inheritance come later, and they’ll just receive it after you pass away. But there’s been a bit of a growing shift recently.
Many retirees are starting to ask those questions: if I could help now, I’d like to see the impact. What if the legacy isn’t just what I want to leave behind—but I want to live through it with my family?
So, it’s kind of a turning point. And I have actually seen this idea with my own family.
My grandparents were always very frugal, hardworking, modest, and extremely careful with their money. Like many of their generation, I think the original plan was just to leave everything behind after they were gone.
But a few years ago, everything changed. My grandpa had a stroke. Thankfully, he kept his life. He’s not fully recovered, but that experience was a little bit of a wake-up call. Life is fragile. Time is precious. So my grandma made a decision. Instead of waiting to give later, she chose to create a memory now.
Last year, she took our entire family—her kids, grandkids, even the great-grandkids (which I sometimes think maybe she regretted, but it’s beside the point)—on a cruise to Alaska.
And I can tell you, for us, it was not just a regular trip. It was a memory that is going to live with us forever. And for her, it was just a chance to give us something while she was still here—to laugh with us, share stories, and just enjoy that gift together.
Now again, I want to be really clear. I am not saying everyone needs to give during their lifetime. In some cases, it’s not even financially prudent to be doing that.
But the purpose of today’s discussion is to explore why some people do choose to give during life, how it can be done thoughtfully and strategically, and what the tax rules and other situations look like if you do decide it’s right for you.
The Case For Giving During Life – (5:32)
So, that being said, let’s discuss the case for giving during life. And I’ll just start off by asking you this question. You can kind of keep it in mind as we go throughout: If you could help your kids buy a home, pay off student loans, or take a meaningful trip as a family—and still feel confident in your retirement—wouldn’t you want to be around to see that happen?
Now, I don’t know if any of you have read it or not, but I’m going to share a few of the teachings today that are found in the book called Die With Zero by Bill Perkins. Now let me just say right now: I am not a devout believer in everything that Perkins says in the book. I have a few qualms with some of the principles that he talks about. The title itself—Dying With Zero—I think there should probably be more planning than that.
But one thing that I really appreciate is when he argues that the goal is to maximize life experiences, not net worth, by intentionally spending your money during the stages of life when it creates the most value.
So the value aspect is huge. One of the biggest concerns with delayed giving is that it may not provide the greatest value for either you or the person you’re hoping to help.
So think about it like this: your kids probably won’t need your money when they’re 65.
By that point, they’re likely already to be financially stable, probably paid off their mortgage, they’ve built their own nest egg—they’ve kind of got things figured out at that point.
But turn back the clock 30 years when they were juggling daycare, trying to buy their first home, starting a business, or dealing with student loans—that is when a gift could make a real difference.
Another reason people are rethinking delayed giving is that it means missing out on the joy of seeing your gift in action.
I’ve had so many clients share stories of helping a child or a grandchild. Almost without fail, those stories are told with a big smile, and at the end, they say something along the lines of, “It was one of the most rewarding things I have ever done.”
For them, it’s really not just about the money. It’s about the moment it creates and the experience they were able to share.
So again, while I don’t agree with everything, there are a few principles from that book that I wanted to share that I think can really reframe how we think about giving and spending in retirement.
First, time-bucket your life. The idea here is to be intentional. Intentionality when gifting is a really big thing.
So it’s about being intentional when you do things. Certain experiences—like traveling, those bigger adventures, sometimes even just more of that active time with family—that’s usually better in your sixties and seventies compared to your eighties or nineties.
So align your money with your energy, your health, and your relationships—and not put off everything for someday down the road.
Second, net fulfillment over net worth. This flips the usual mindset. Instead of aiming to die with a large account balance, you can ask, “Okay, what is this money doing for me and the people I love?”
The real goal, in my opinion, is not to just accumulate endlessly. It is to live meaningfully along the way.
And then finally, we already kind of talked a little bit about this one, but just give when it matters most. Whether it’s a gift of money or shared experiences—timing is everything. A gift in someone’s thirties can change their life. In their sixties or seventies, they may not need it. So waiting can mean missing the window where your gift has the biggest impact.
Gifting Strategies and Tax Considerations – (9:26)
So how do we help now but do it in the right way? I want to talk through a couple of different tactics because there are some important tax rules and strategies to keep in mind as you go.
But before we dive into some of those, I just want to kind of give a baseline, because it’s important to understand the basics of just the gift tax.
The gift and estate taxes are federal taxes designed to apply to you when wealth is being transferred from one person to another, either while you’re alive or after you pass away.
The gift tax specifically applies to transfers made during your lifetime. The estate tax applies after your death.
Today, I just want to focus on the gifts made during life, so that gift side. The estate is kind of a whole new ball game.
Now, the tax rate on gifts is progressive. It starts at 18% and can go as high as 40%. Depending on how much you give, it can be a steep price to pay if you have to pay that 40% tax.
Naturally, a couple of questions I just wanted to address from the get-go: One can think, “Well, do I have to pay that? Or since I’m the one gifting the money, can they do it?” In most cases, the person giving the gift is the one responsible for any tax owed—not the person receiving it. That’s not always the case, but that is kind of the rule of thumb.
Another question we often hear is: “Do I get a deduction for giving money to my kids or to my grandkids?” Unfortunately, again, the answer is no.
While charitable gifts—things like giving to churches, qualified nonprofits—that can still be deductible, of course. But gifts directly to family or friends are not tax-deductible.
So far, I know maybe what many of you are thinking, this is not a very compelling case. You’re telling me I have to be generous, pay taxes on my generosity, and I don’t even get a deduction for doing so.
I promise you though—it’s not all doom and gloom. There’s really good news, and that’s thanks to the annual and lifetime gift tax exclusions. Because of these two things, in reality, most people will never owe a penny in gift tax during their lifetime.
So let’s talk about why. I want to start off with the annual gift tax exclusion.
Each year, the IRS sets a limit on how much you can give to another person without it counting against your lifetime exemption or requiring any paperwork. It’s completely tax-free.
For 2025, that number is $19,000 per person per year. So, you can give $19,000 to as many people as you’d like—completely tax-free, no paperwork, no headache, anything like that.
It’s kind of a funny number, why $19,000? For the IRS, the general rule is that any gift is a taxable gift. However, the IRS would need a workforce the size of Manhattan to keep tabs on every little birthday card, every Christmas present, and so on and so forth. So, there’s just no way of really tracking that.
So, $19,000 is essentially the IRS’s way of saying: “We don’t want to worry about it—anything less than that.” This number also adjusts for inflation. So, in 2024, it was $18,000. Now this year, it’s $19,000.
If you’re married, you and your spouse can actually combine your gifts, meaning you could give a child or a grandchild $38,000 per year as a couple, completely tax-free.
One thing I’ll point out here, too: gifts don’t have to be in cash. You can gift stock, real estate, business interests, artwork, collectibles—really, basically anything of value, you can gift.
Now, I understand $19,000—for some could be plenty, for others it may not. So what if you do go over that $19,000 threshold?
Well, in addition to the annual gift exclusion, you also have what’s called a lifetime gift exclusion. If you give above that $19,000, it just means that anything above $19,000 goes toward your lifetime gift and estate tax exemption.
To give you just an idea, let’s say you gifted $30,000 to a child. $19,000 of that you don’t have to include, but then $11,000 of that would go toward your lifetime gift and estate tax exemption.
Now, what is that amount? Well, as of 2025, it is currently $13,990,000 per person. So for a couple, nearly $28 million. So unless you are giving away very large sums, you’re likely in the clear.
Now just as a quick side note, this exclusion is set to be cut in half at the end of the year, but part of the bill that Congress is currently reviewing and debating would extend these bigger exclusions.
So, when you hear that and you kind of see that—for basically $14 million there—you can kind of wonder: why in the world does that $19,000 even matter?
Well, if you give more than that to any one person in a single year—that $19,000—you are required to file IRS Form 709. So you kind of have to put it on your tax return.
Even though you don’t owe the tax, you still have to report it, so you get hit with the paperwork. So staying under the limit can help you keep things nice and clean and avoid the nuisance that comes with that.
But the other big reason that $19,000 matters is that the lifetime gift tax exemption and the estate tax exemption are tied together.
So I know I said I wouldn’t talk a ton about estate, but this is one of those important features here.
Any gifts you make during your lifetime that exceed that $19,000 will reduce the amount that you can pass on estate tax-free when you pass away.
So, in other words, they draw from the same bucket. If you give more now, your estate tax exclusion gets smaller later on.
To summarize these two:
- You can give freely up to $19,000 per person per year—no questions asked.
- If you go over that, you’re simply tapping into your lifetime exclusion, which again is currently about $14 million.
- And if you gift over that $19,000—although you likely won’t have a tax unless it’s a significantly large sum—you will need to file a form that can start eating away at your estate exemptions down the road.
Now that we’ve discussed those exclusions, let’s talk about a few other strategies. One of the most powerful ways to support a child or grandchild is through the funding of a 529 plan.
As you probably know, a 529 plan is a tax-advantaged savings account specifically for education.
Money grows tax-free, and then as long as it’s used for qualified education expenses—tuition, books, sometimes even room and board—it can come out tax-free as well.
Now, contributing to a 529 is considered a gift for federal tax purposes. That contribution is subject to that $19,000 threshold we just talked about.
However, with 529 plans, there is one special caveat. If you want, you can actually supercharge the savings that you put in there. The IRS lets you make up to five years’ worth of gifts all at one time without triggering the gift tax.
That means you could essentially put in $95,000 for one person. Again, if you’re married, $190,000 into that 529. This is called five-year gift averaging. All it requires is you do have to file that Form 709, but there’s no gift tax due at all.
Why is that so powerful with a 529? Because the earlier those funds are invested, the longer they have to grow, especially if college is still years away. You can invest in the 529 using a lot of similar funds, like you can with your IRAs, your 401(k)s, and things like that.
So, whether you’re looking to give your grandchild a head start or help kids avoid student loans—whatever it may be—a 529 plan, especially when you front-load it like that, can be a really smart and generous move.
Another powerful but often overlooked strategy here is paying for education and medical expenses directly. The IRS allows you to make unlimited tax-free payments for someone else’s qualified tuition or medical care, as long as you pay that institution directly.
That means you could pay a grandchild’s tuition directly to the university. You can cover a friend or a family member’s surgery in a hospital. And in both cases, those don’t count toward your $19,000 annual exclusion. They’re completely exempt; they don’t even touch that.
What that means is that you could still give that same person, in the same year, up to that $19,000 of additional assets without triggering any type of gift tax or filing requirements.
So, if you’re looking to help someone in a meaningful way, this strategy also can be really helpful in the long run.
Now, there are plenty of other strategies that you can really dive into.
I think sometimes with higher net worth, you just get a little bit more tactical.
Best Practices For Intentionally Gifting – (20:00)
But I do want to still go through a lot of what we call our best practices. These best practices, over the years, as we’ve helped clients gift their kids and grandkids, there are a few helpful insights that we’ve come away with that I would like to share with you. So you can avoid the headache that sometimes comes with gifting, as good as it can be.
Number one, plain and simple, just start with a plan. When it comes to giving during your lifetime, again, intentionality really matters. So, before making any significant gifts, make sure they align with your overall financial plan and retirement income strategy. Giving is generous, but it should also be sustainable.
It’s also important for you to decide what you’re trying to accomplish with your giving. Are you providing a head start? Are you reducing student debt? Do you want to share those experiences in travel?
So just being very intentional is huge when it comes to this.
Number two, I can’t emphasize this enough—don’t jeopardize your own security.
There have been plenty of times when I’ve kind of had a little bit of angst in my heart when a client wants to gift, and I know that it could make them more vulnerable. So you want to be generous, but not vulnerable.
It’s easy to want to help kids and grandkids in the moment, but without a clear plan, it could disrupt your retirement income strategy, harm your cash flow, deplete emergency reserves, and really limit future flexibility for you to do the things you want.
I’ll tell you, this is especially true for widows. It’s common for widows and widowers to put the needs of their children ahead of their own. They’re compelled to gift money, especially at that kind of time.
While that generosity is very admirable, gifting too much or in the wrong way can cause a lot of unintended consequences. I always encourage that before we make a gift, we go ahead and stress test that gift.
Meaning you can ask questions like: “If I were to gift this now and then the markets were to drop, would I be okay?”
“If I were to gift this now and then healthcare costs spiked because I got sick, would I be okay?”
Again, just the principle be generous, not vulnerable.
Number three, be fair, but not necessarily equal. This is a big one. Not every child or grandchild always needs the same kind of help.
Tailoring your support to each of your children’s needs is often more impactful than just dividing it evenly. Now, that’s not to say you can’t. If that works for you and your family, perfect. But it doesn’t always have to be exactly equal.
Just be sure here to communicate clearly to avoid a lot of those potential misunderstandings down the road.
Number four, and this is a big one again—I can’t stress this one enough—avoid gifting around holidays or birthdays. It’s best to separate your thoughtfully planned financial gifts from emotionally charged moments.
Giving a large check on Christmas morning can unintentionally shift the tone or create unwanted expectations. So I always recommend just a more neutral setting, something more neutral time throughout the year.
I’ve had a few clients in the past who really wanted to give their children gifts on Christmas. And of course, the children were elated that year. They were thrilled when they received the money that was given to them.
However, the kids in that one year alone came to already hope for and expect that same cash next Christmas. So when my client didn’t really have any intentions of gifting, and then come Christmas morning, you wake up and there’s nothing there, things turned a little sour with a few of the kids.
So being random and sporadic can be a much better approach than trying to time it along those certain events.
The last one here, if you have any major concerns, loop in your advisor or your accountant to help you out. One, they’ll just make sure everything is structured properly, that you’re complying with the IRS, things like that.
But it helps again to shore things up, avoid any confusion, and avoid really jeopardizing your own security like I mentioned.
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Question and Answer Session – (25:30)
Okay, perfect. Before I turn it to Jeff for any questions here—again, just thank you so much for jumping on. It really means a lot to us each month when you tune in and give us your feedback.
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Okay, Jeff, I’ll turn it to you. Any questions that came up throughout?
Jeff Sevy: Awesome. Yeah, well, I just have one unanswered question here… oh, it looks like another one just popped up. Let’s see:
Q: Are there different tax implications when gifting cash versus gifting assets like stock or property?
Alek Johnson: A: Yeah, it’s a really good question. You can kind of play it however you want, but when it comes to gifting stock, just one thing to know is that your basis in that position will transfer over to the recipient.
So let’s say you bought Apple stock for $10,000 and it’s now worth $50,000. If you were to pass away, that person—if it was your child—would receive a step-up in basis, and their full basis becomes $50,000.
If you gift it, their basis becomes yours. So they get the basis of $10,000, and now if they were to sell it, they’re on the hook for the $40,000 of growth in that stock.
So that is one thing to be mindful of. Generally, you’ll see people giving stock that they don’t have significant growth in—just for that reason alone—so that if the recipient does sell it, there’s not a huge tax impact.
Jeff Sevy: Q: Are there any rules, like you must file jointly in order for my wife and I to give $38,000 to each of our children?
Alek Johnson: A: No, you can. I’m assuming you’re thinking like if you’re married filing separately—but no, you can still give. Every person is entitled to that $19,000. So, yeah, pretty straightforward. You don’t have to file in a certain way to be able to do it.
Jeff Sevy: Q: Does a loan without interest constitute gifting?
Alek Johnson: A: Yeah, so this is one of those ones I didn’t take a ton of time on because it can get into the weeds. But you can definitely discount it and sometimes forgive along the way when you do a family loan.
I’d recommend either talking to your advisor here or your accountant to see what those implications look like because some of that interest can be taxable to you. There’s just a little bit more nuance that goes into family loans.
Jeff Sevy: Q: Can the 529 plan be used by more than one student?
Alek Johnson: A: Yes—great question. Most of the time, the 529 plan will have a named beneficiary, but you can change that beneficiary at any time.
Now, there’s a little caveat with generations. Let’s say you set it up for your grandchildren—you can move it from one grandchild to another, and they can all benefit from that.
If you move it from one of your grandchildren up to a child who wants to go back to school, then there could be some tax consequences.
Again, I’d recommend reaching out directly to either your advisor or an accountant. But for the most part, yes—you can change the beneficiary at any time.
Jeff Sevy: Q: Key points to keep in mind when charitable gifting using your 401(k) to partially satisfy RMD requirements?
Alek Johnson: A: Good question. So with the RMD (Required Minimum Distributions), you also have what’s called Qualified Charitable Distributions (QCDs). When you make a QCD, that satisfies your RMD.
The caveat is the QCD can only go directly to a 501(c)(3) charity, so they have to be a qualified charity.
You can’t give that money to children or family directly and have it satisfy your RMD—that would just be taxable.
But if you do that donation directly to a church, the Red Cross, or any of those qualified charities, then that is completely tax-free and satisfies the RMD for you.
Jeff Sevy: Q: Can we gift in increments up to the $19K or $38K in a given year, or does it have to be in a lump sum?
Alek Johnson: A: You can absolutely do it in increments. The biggest thing is just over that one full year—if you go above $19,000, then you have to start reporting it.
But if you did $1,000 a month or anything like that, absolutely—you are completely free to do that.
Jeff Sevy: Okay, awesome. Well, that is all the questions that I have.
Alek Johnson: Perfect. Well, thank you very much. Those are great questions, honestly, so I appreciate you all asking them.
Thanks for your time. Again, please—if you don’t mind—fill out that survey for us, and we’ll talk again soon.